Tuesday, February 03, 2004
Fritz and I woke up early Sunday morning and talked in bed for a while before we slipped into some very enjoyable sex. The topic was getting married but from an interesting perspective this time.
Fritz grew up in a Quaker family. He is an atheistic Quaker, and the Friends have been a big part of his life. He never actually had to tell his parents he was gay; they understood that from his early teen age years and there was never a problem. His sexual orientation was accepted in the family without trauma or, as he puts it "I never had to come out since I was never in."
That reality has colored a lot of his subsequent life experience. While he has been an activist on gay issues, he has never been a radical
confrontationalist. Again, the Quaker influence coupled with the fact that he didn't have any conflict with his family to overcome. But he told me Sunday morning that planning our marriage is radicalizing him now as it is pointing up for him the impact of having basic social rights denied for so long. He's a very dear and gentle man but he gets the kind of gleam in his eye and edge to his voice now that I do when I get fired up on a subject. There's a passion and vigor when discussing politics that I haven't experienced from him previously. Quite frankly, it's a big turn-on, thus the segue into getting laid.
Fritz grew up in a Quaker family. He is an atheistic Quaker, and the Friends have been a big part of his life. He never actually had to tell his parents he was gay; they understood that from his early teen age years and there was never a problem. His sexual orientation was accepted in the family without trauma or, as he puts it "I never had to come out since I was never in."
That reality has colored a lot of his subsequent life experience. While he has been an activist on gay issues, he has never been a radical
confrontationalist. Again, the Quaker influence coupled with the fact that he didn't have any conflict with his family to overcome. But he told me Sunday morning that planning our marriage is radicalizing him now as it is pointing up for him the impact of having basic social rights denied for so long. He's a very dear and gentle man but he gets the kind of gleam in his eye and edge to his voice now that I do when I get fired up on a subject. There's a passion and vigor when discussing politics that I haven't experienced from him previously. Quite frankly, it's a big turn-on, thus the segue into getting laid.
